Ask Him This on the First Date
When you meet someone from online for a first date it can go anywhere.
This person can literally be anyone, with the intentions of anything on earth. How do you start narrowing it down, how can you start knowing if he is actually a nice person or a weirdo inside?
You can get a good idea about who he really is by a few key things on that first date. One is asking an important question that usually women don’t ask. Things that you don’t want to ask include the following.
- With attitude “What are your intentions with me?????”
- About marriage and/or kids (unless you don’t know his general stance)
- About his work success
The main point of a first date is just to be casual and hang out. You want to see in general your natural chemistry being around each other. Note things you pick up on about him—these are direct things you learn but also, very importantly, nuances and intuitions.
Do ask a critical question:
- “What was it that drew you to my profile?”
A weird guy isn’t going to have a good answer to this. His answer might be “Um…. I liked your eyes,” as he looks away and fidgets. Most of the bad guys are going to have an “off” answer or a non-answer to this question. These are men that maybe are just trying to go out with any possible woman that says yes, and then on the date they just try to get in her pants by the end of the night. Or worse.
A better guy is going to have an answer that will show you something—it will give you something to work with. It will demonstrate something about the way he thinks and help you learn more about him as a person.
So be casual in your demeanor on your first date. Don’t be an interrogator. Keep it light, but do ask this critical question. It will show so much.