A Critical Way to Know If He Really Likes You

A Critical Way to Know If He Really Likes You

Many women have a lot of guys interested in them but it’s difficult to tell a guy’s true feelings.

It’s shocking sometimes to us women that a guy asking us out and wanting to keep talking to us and spending time with us doesn’t necessarily mean that he likes us. That is such a foreign concept to women that many women don’t even know this phenomenon exists (until they experience it)!

Once you wise up to guys, as a woman you don’t know what a guy’s motives are for dating you or even if he’s just trying to use you for sex or something. With all the online dating people do these days, it can lead to even more questioning of his motives and if he’s really into us or not. But how to know? Asking him directly to tell you if he’s into you is not the way to go since any guy even mildly into you will say yes. Plus, that’s a lot of awkwardness!

Instead, pay attention to details.

One of the best ways to tell how a guy really feels about you is to pay attention to how he talks about you to you. A guy who truly likes you, a guy who feels like he’s won the lottery by getting to go on dates with you will bring it up directly to you and begin making reference to that you are the best woman. When he has these true loving feelings for you he will particularly bring it up in terms of your beauty. He will seem awestruck by how beautiful he thinks you are. He will express to you that you are so beautiful and that you are the most beautiful. This is like a law of nature when a guy has true feelings for a woman. Even a guy who typically doesn’t express feelings or vulnerable thoughts will do this, so don’t make excuses for him for any reason!

If he is not bringing up passionately how beautiful you are and seems passionate about you in general (not talking sexually here), you should absolutely assume he’s not that into you.

This is different than saying comments like “you’re pretty” as you’re about to kiss or saying something like you are a good looking woman or that you dress well. A guy who has true feelings for you will make it very clear that you are the best to him, the most beautiful—and others do not seem to exist for him. It is all about you and he will let you know it. Almost all guys who date you but don’t have true feelings for you will sometimes make comments, but it will be a random comment like “you’re pretty.”

Guys can even say a grand statement about your beauty for example, but there’s a difference and nuance to it when he is really into you. For illustration, take for example the Jodi Arias murder case of Travis Alexander. Travis liked having sex with Jodi a lot but had no interest in her otherwise. He said to others that she was not “marriage material” and he started dating someone else, all while still having sex with Jodi. At one point during this, Travis said to Jodi that she “is one of the most beautiful women on the planet.” I truly believe he thought she was one of the most beautiful women on the planet and that he liked having sex with her. But see the difference that he did not proclaim she is the most beautiful woman in the world? A guy in love would’ve said that (as well would’ve actively wanted to be with her in more ways than just sexually).

A guy making reference to that you are the best and the most beautiful is what you should be looking for here. This is one of those factors that until you’re getting it from the guy I would hold back any emotional investment in him. In other words, don’t even let yourself like him if this factor isn’t there.

Love, Janelle

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